Days without Franny take on an entirely different dynamic.  Things are quieter and simpler.  There is no chasing, rough housing, yelling, or sibling conflicts.  And, this is not reflective of a character flaw on Franny’s behalf, these are just the kind of things that happen when four and two year olds get together.  Babies slow things down and there is just more calm.  Of the three days that Franny is at school, we have only one commitment.  Outside of that, our time is wonderfully undefined and just our own.  As much as Cole adores Franny, I think he really enjoys this time without her.  This week, we went to the open session at My Masterpiece Studio and just spent some time painting.  No class, no commitment, no having to be anywhere at a set time—just taking our time and having some fun.  But, he is very aware that this time is for him.  He is so often tagging along on whatever is on Franny’s schedule, and although he has fun, he does understand that it is more about Franny than him.  It is surprising how much he understands.  On our days without Franny, not only is it important time for him, but it is also important time for Cole and Delaney to spend together and build on their relationship.  Having three children is complicated in very surprising ways.  In some ways, the transition from two to three was not as difficult as one to two, but there are so many more things—mostly regarding relationships—to consider and be aware of.  Sometimes it is overwhelming.  That is probably why I cherish these mornings.  And, I do.  I really, really do.